I am NOT a relationship expert in anyway,nor am i claiming to be one.Quite a number of readers have been emailing me questions like “What do i wear on my first date?” “How do i impress my crush” and other similar questions.Though this post might come off to be a little “Cheesy”,i have tried my best to keep it balanced!
Cut the feelings aside,Here’s a short post on the slightly materialistic side of impressing someone [Read:Clothes &Makeup].
Men/Boys are one of a kind creatures who do not really care about what you wear in detail.They wont ever come to you and be like “Oh !Cute top!Zara?” Which of course will make you question their sexuality.Men see you as a whole.This is what they think “Oh she looks pretty today ” or “Hot today“.They see you as a whole,not the details (Be it ,those brand new red shoes from Steve Madden or the new Gucci bag,really).Men care about the smell/Fragrance.You my dear have a unique fragrance & the best thing to do is maintain it.I wear the “Britney spears-fantasy” perfume almost everyday!It’s like my identity. So the identity that you create matters.Have your unique fragrance & Maintain it.That’s how they recognise you.(No that doesn’t mean they keep sniffing when you’re around!Haha!)
Now comes the clothing part,Men do not go on trends.We all know that women dress for other women.If you’re going to be wearing your brand new orange lipstick on your first date,it’s not going to impress him in anyway.He doesn’t really care.
The materialistic side:
-Do not go on trends.I know that “Bright red lipstick” or “Bodychain” is going to make you look “cool”,but please save that for your girlfriends. Keep it feminine or wear something comfortable.
-Wear something neutral.Something that doesn’t seem to be too “trendy” or too “boring”.For example,try wearing a lace dress,wedges & carry a cute handbag.
-Don’t go overboard with being “Girly”.
“Girly” and “feminine” are two completely different terms.Being feminine is extremely important.
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-Wear what you’re comfortable in.Don’t try too hard.Who would want to change themselves for a Man?
-Make sure your hair is neat.That’s what matters.It shouldn’t be too messy.Oh the “Out of the bed” look might work,but not when you literally get out of the bed and think it looks sexy.Work it girl *Does the ghetto snap* .Do you realise that the “Out of the bed look” is created using mousse,straighteners and curlers?Yes.
-Do not wear anything too revealing.Be mysterious.
-Keep the makeup simple.You can wear simple smokey eyes & nude lips.
-Perfume is the most important part.No matter how many dates you go on,make sure you try wearing the same perfume.(Identity!Remember?)
-Do not try being too innocent or do not try changing your voice .Babytalks are annoying and you do not want to scare your date away,do you?
-Wear wedges instead of stilletos as they’re more comfortable.If you like flats ,go for it!
-As i mentioned earlier,Being Girly & Being Feminine are two different aspects.You do not have to wear a pink t-shirt with sweatpants that says “bebe” to be girly.I would call it “Hannah Montana”.
The non-materialistic side:
-Smile.
-Make eye contact
-Being yourself is EXTREMELY important.But we all know that we subconsciously try impressing the opposite sex/the person we have a crush on by being sweeter or by being a little more polished.
-Remember that it’s “okay” to try & improve yourself but never try being “FAKE” because once you start dating,you don’t want your partner to think that “who the hell is she?” after a year.Noone can fake that long.
-A Man wants a woman who is independent,not someone who hides behind her boyfriend everytime something happens.Learn to take care of your work.Do not be too dependent.
-Remember not to meet your boyfriend with your friends.Keep your friend’s circle separate.It’s okay to meet up together sometimes,but at times it can create problems.
-People have the right to judge.No matter how much you say/wonder “Why do people judge before they know me?” ,they will judge you on how you dress up or how you talk!Perceptions are a part of life .But the most important thing is whether YOU CARE.
Have an amazing Date! 🙂
